Posts Tagged With: Love

SEX… The consolation prize..!!


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It was a full moon, high tide evening on the seashore where roaring waves were increasing the pulse rates of two hearts. Silent tears were rolling down, trickling into the sand from the two pairs of eyes on different beaches. It was HE and SHE, thinking about their pasts, recalling memories of last three years of their relationship that they had as a couple during their college days.

The memory list ranged from lectures that were bunked for spontaneous dates, a bike that ran miles for long rides, theatre’s corner seats that saw hugs and kisses, jungles and mountains that heard eco of ‘I love you’ and… beds that witnessed their sex.

HE, who was dumped by his Ex, with a vengeance mindset wanted to be ahead in the race of love. And SHE was fed-up with lonely days that were passing by looking at classmates dating someone. No doubt, suppressing these basic facts from themselves and each other, HIS physical personality and HER charismatic beauty were eager to blend with one another. The newfound, initial feelings of fondness made them to start their journey on the romantic path of a relationship; to which we generally call as ‘LOVE’!

Believe me or not, but real essence of this path can be experienced only when you walk caressingly on it by holding the hand of your partner. And this journey of love becomes more beautiful with unconditional acceptance, sincere faith, assertive trust and complementary adjustments towards each other.

In an adrenaline rush to feel the essence faster; impatient HE and SHE started running on the path of love. Acknowledging an unexplained myth that it will keep their relationship warm forever, in a very little period they decided to go far. And ultimately, the day came when their naked bodies intertwined each other.

Few months later, several factors such as HIS expectations from her to add him in a Facebook friend list and HER questions about having his Whatsapp last seen at the late mid night became causes of rift. Incapable both, to convince each other on such issues, in pursuit to fill the gap; started taking help of bed to leash and manage dudgeon of one another. Unknowingly their love became the cause of strain and sex became a linking thread.

Lacking with some emotional factors like acceptance, faith, trust and adjustment among them, very soon their meaning of ‘love’ became only ‘love making’. By the time when fluctuations in their relationship raised certain unanswered and wrongly answered questions about their reliability towards each other, they had already gambled with their lives. Finding it difficult to head back, never realized that their definition of ‘love’, now had moved from ‘mere love making’ to need, desire, hunger, lust and greed.

Today, all accumulated unsolved questions has resulted into broken relationship with no hopes of U-Turn. Defeated in love HE and SHE, cursing all their sexual moments, has put themselves into a condition where both can afford to keep one another in their thoughts but not in lives.

Friends, such situation draws our attention on important things about which everyone needs to introspect or retrospect at our own.

“Do we really fall in love with someone because we actually love the person or our decision is based on any external elements? Has the time become such a scarce resource that we cannot afford to spend it to think enough before undressing ourselves in front of someone? Are we so in a hurry in our life that we want to smell the fragrance of love by treading its flowers with our feet?”…. Strange…!!!

In my personal opinion, ‘actual pleasure is not the sex but the emotions through which sex is expressed and experienced’. So, it is not sex but our unwillingness to take some efforts to understand the tenderness of sexuality in relationships makes it hollow.

It is better to remember always that ‘we should fall in love to win the love’. Eventually, winning the love should only be a winning of love. And….

“Sex should never be a consolation prize if you cannot win the award of love…”

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Values Are Valuable


Topic for this month’s article is ‘Importance of character and moral as traits against corruption.

I believe that Character and Morals collectively constitutes values and whosoever we may be, values of our life always determines path of our journey.

To elaborate it further, I would like to share something with you all. Around five years back, while volunteering with an NGO; often I visited red light area that is situated in southern part of Mumbai; to carry-out some development work for the community.

The message of one poster that was displayed on gate of the particular building talks a lot about the topic that I am addressing today.

The poster said…

            Yess… we sell our body here… But if you want to do a business of Dignity…

            Police station is half kilometer away…

            Yess… we sell our body here… But if you want to do business of Honesty…

            Mantralaya (Offices of Ministers) is just three railway stations ahead…

            Yess… we have plenty of love for you… But if you want to do a business of Lust,

            Then this is not a place…instead just go and become religious guru of any religion…

Friends, since childhood we are listening and talking about corruption. And whenever we talk about it; we often held bureaucracy, government, administrative bodies, and judicial system responsible for it. Undoubtedly, they are responsible for corruption. But my question is… are they only responsible for this disease called corruption? Have we looked at other side of it?

I think, whether person is bureaucratic person or general public like you and me. Doesn’t matter. But if a person is lacking with Character, Morals, Values in terms of Dignity, Honesty and Love, I think that person is responsible for this disease. And hence, that poster was talking about the business of these three things.

We are well aware that business transaction can not happen without two parties, that is buyer and seller. If you are either buyer or seller of Dignity, Honesty and Love, you are responsible for the corruption. You must be thinking how..!! Right..?? Let me explain…

If any non-parliamentary transaction of 100 rupees is happening between traffic police and person caught driving without license. That means, they both are keeping their Dignity at a stake.

If any non-parliamentary transaction of 1000 rupees is happening at any government department for completing small tasks and procedure, it means both are keeping their Honesty at a stake.

If any non-parliamentary transaction of 10000 rupees is happening between you and your religious gurus, just to express your Love towards your own god; unknowingly both are encouraging corruption by keeping their Love at a stake.

And that’s how character, morals, values becomes important in the fights against corruption. If you seriously wish to breath in corruption free environment; Never… Ever… do business of your Dignity, Honesty and Love.

Theme of this 2015 vigilance week is ‘Preventing vigilance as a tool of good governance.’ And I believe that preventive measures are nothing but values and morals on which we live our life.

Friends, for a moment keep aside a thought of eradicating corruption. And today, lets us take a pledge to prevent and protect our own Dignity, Honesty and Love in the fight against corruption.

Because, corruption is not only about giving and taking bribe. It’s all about allowing other person to play and manipulate with your Dignity, Honesty and Love.

To conclude, I just want to say that by keeping your morals and values at a stake you may become rich, may be a billionaire. You may own various places and properties that will reflect on the assets side of you balance sheet under titles as fixed assets and variable assets. But… never forget that biggest asset of your life is the place that you create in the heart of people and in your own eyes.

(This article has been awarded as winning speech delivered by me, in intra college elocution competition organized by Indian Oil Corporation Limited in association with Jasani center of Social Entrepreneurship-NMIMS, Social Responsibility Forum-NMIMS, and NMIMS Toastmasters to celebrate the Vigilance Awareness Week)

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