SEX… The consolation prize..!!


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It was a full moon, high tide evening on the seashore where roaring waves were increasing the pulse rates of two hearts. Silent tears were rolling down, trickling into the sand from the two pairs of eyes on different beaches. It was HE and SHE, thinking about their pasts, recalling memories of last three years of their relationship that they had as a couple during their college days.

The memory list ranged from lectures that were bunked for spontaneous dates, a bike that ran miles for long rides, theatre’s corner seats that saw hugs and kisses, jungles and mountains that heard eco of ‘I love you’ and… beds that witnessed their sex.

HE, who was dumped by his Ex, with a vengeance mindset wanted to be ahead in the race of love. And SHE was fed-up with lonely days that were passing by looking at classmates dating someone. No doubt, suppressing these basic facts from themselves and each other, HIS physical personality and HER charismatic beauty were eager to blend with one another. The newfound, initial feelings of fondness made them to start their journey on the romantic path of a relationship; to which we generally call as ‘LOVE’!

Believe me or not, but real essence of this path can be experienced only when you walk caressingly on it by holding the hand of your partner. And this journey of love becomes more beautiful with unconditional acceptance, sincere faith, assertive trust and complementary adjustments towards each other.

In an adrenaline rush to feel the essence faster; impatient HE and SHE started running on the path of love. Acknowledging an unexplained myth that it will keep their relationship warm forever, in a very little period they decided to go far. And ultimately, the day came when their naked bodies intertwined each other.

Few months later, several factors such as HIS expectations from her to add him in a Facebook friend list and HER questions about having his Whatsapp last seen at the late mid night became causes of rift. Incapable both, to convince each other on such issues, in pursuit to fill the gap; started taking help of bed to leash and manage dudgeon of one another. Unknowingly their love became the cause of strain and sex became a linking thread.

Lacking with some emotional factors like acceptance, faith, trust and adjustment among them, very soon their meaning of ‘love’ became only ‘love making’. By the time when fluctuations in their relationship raised certain unanswered and wrongly answered questions about their reliability towards each other, they had already gambled with their lives. Finding it difficult to head back, never realized that their definition of ‘love’, now had moved from ‘mere love making’ to need, desire, hunger, lust and greed.

Today, all accumulated unsolved questions has resulted into broken relationship with no hopes of U-Turn. Defeated in love HE and SHE, cursing all their sexual moments, has put themselves into a condition where both can afford to keep one another in their thoughts but not in lives.

Friends, such situation draws our attention on important things about which everyone needs to introspect or retrospect at our own.

“Do we really fall in love with someone because we actually love the person or our decision is based on any external elements? Has the time become such a scarce resource that we cannot afford to spend it to think enough before undressing ourselves in front of someone? Are we so in a hurry in our life that we want to smell the fragrance of love by treading its flowers with our feet?”…. Strange…!!!

In my personal opinion, ‘actual pleasure is not the sex but the emotions through which sex is expressed and experienced’. So, it is not sex but our unwillingness to take some efforts to understand the tenderness of sexuality in relationships makes it hollow.

It is better to remember always that ‘we should fall in love to win the love’. Eventually, winning the love should only be a winning of love. And….

“Sex should never be a consolation prize if you cannot win the award of love…”

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The Stable Earth…!!!

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Strange..? I am sure you are quite surprised by the irony of the title of the article.  You must be wondering how the earth can be called stable as since the time we were kids in school, most of the subjects we were taught told us that rotating and revolving are important features of the earth. Yes, now it’s time to go back to the science lab and stand in front of that dummy model of the universe to learn an untaught, but a very beautiful lesson of life by the earth.

We, as individuals, sometimes dream about having a happy and stable life. In bad situations we often say, “There is no stability in my life” or “I want to get stable now”. The definition of stability might vary from person to person. But let’s take a closer look at magic of term STABILITY.

The question here is, why do we want to have stability in our life? And what exactly is it that we will achieve after reaching that level of stability? Now imagine a situation where the earth on which we are living, has forgotten its features of rotating and revolving, and now is completely stable. Envisage a stable earth… one half of it is always facing the sun, in terribly hot conditions. And half of it is in complete darkness. What do you think would happen? We don’t need certificates from science to know that every single living being including trees, shrubs, insects and we human beings exist and survive on earth because of its characteristic of being unstable.

Crops that grow on the soil of the earth can produce the food we eat, due to constant changes and unstable processes. A seed grows into a tree and that tree becomes the source of another seed through fruits due to lots of unstable developments. Marine lives flourish because of never-ending processes of high tide and low tide. Birds and animals that sometimes attract us cannot stay on single offshoot or remain indefinitely in same area of a jungle. And the earth consistently works in this manner 24 x 7 x 12 months x ‘n’ number of years.

Hence, the sole reason we exist on earth are the constant changes & unstable characteristics of nature. Now let us stop and think for just a moment that the very planet on which we live and survive is not stable due to its constant rotation and revolution, what kind of stability do we then expect in our life and lifestyle?

Instead of asking for stability of life why don’t we ask for the productivity like crops that feed others? By breaking seed of our potential why can’t we convert ourselves in the persevering individuals, who could also become a source of motivation to our near and dear ones? Let us embrace our life with all of its ups and downs, like the sea with its high tide and low tide because, that is what keeps us alive. Sitting on a single offshoot, will make you forget that you can fly. So, break the branch which makes you feel stable and move ahead. Remember you need to do this… 24 x 7 x 12 months x ‘n’ number of years.

Life is actually formed and stimulated in the very process of being unstable. Because, a new birth take place in a mother’s womb due to lots of constant changes. And the only place to find a completely stable person is probably the cemetery.


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Journey of the Train..!!


The train… departs from one station with an objective to arrive at its destination. We often travel by train. It does not matter if the distance is short or long, but the question is have we observed the biggest lessons of life that the train teaches us?

As a person, we must have had experiences where some people who have been a part of our lives in the past, are not part of our present. Or, we may have some important persons as a part of our present that may not necessarily remain a part of our future. These could be our friends, relatives, partner or someone we are close to, minus the tag of a relationship.

We often have an emotional attachment in some way or the other with people who become a part of our life. In some cases, the level of attachment to the person is higher. Sometimes, it might be to the extent that as soon as a person is out of our life; whatever the reason, we find it difficult to come to terms with the absence of the person. We keep reminiscing over and over again about all our bittersweet memories. Even for a single second we find it hard to keep the person out of our thoughts. And surprisingly we just don’t realize when those seconds get converted into minutes, minutes into hours, hours into a day, days into weeks, weeks into month and no wonder sometimes few months into a year.

My question is, how productive have we been by consistently thinking about the person who is not part of our life anymore and by the same token never might be a part of our lives in future? And if the answer is nothing, then the next question is what we can do to be a happy thinker of our life? We would do well to find this answer in that of a train.

Every train departs from its origin with a motivation to reach at predetermined goal or a destination. At the origin point, few people board it, who probably get off after few stations, where other passengers are eagerly waiting to board the train. After a few stations even they get off and train is again filled with new passengers. And the process continues till the train reach its goal.

Imagine what would happen if the train refused to move ahead in the path of her journey and kept regretting that her passengers who was with her in the journey, got off and moved along their own paths. Will achievement of the final destination be possible? Probably NO… Hence the train keeps on moving ahead with a higher speed with a feeling of happiness and satisfaction that for whatever be the duration of those passengers being part of the journey, the train could contribute and added value to their lives.

Our life is similar to this. We all are born to design and achieve our destiny. In our journey, towards our destiny few people are with us for some time and then leave. Does it mean we should stop the journey? And feel regret all the time just by thinking about the person who left us half way, for whatever reason? According to me, absolutely not. Think of it in this way that the design of your destiny allows that person to be with you only for that particular period with a sole intention to teach you another lesson of life. And be grateful, happy and satisfied that whatever may be the duration, you could contribute and add value to the life of the other person.

So just make an announcement from the train of your life… THANK YOU for the journey with me, wish them the very best for the future. And you proceed towards your destination. Because, on the next platform there are a whole lot of new passengers eagerly waiting for you. And you deserve to be at your destination.

So friends, Life has to move on… Sometimes with moments that please us and sometimes with lessons that it teach us.


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The Puppet show… A Reflection of Life…!!


Two days ago, I got my first opportunity to watch a puppet show. It might sound strange but true that it took 29 years to see the first puppet show of my life. Even though it might seem too late, I am grateful that my first opportunity came at a perfect time. Had I watched it in my childhood; I would have looked at it as merely a mode of entertainment. Watching it this time taught me a true, simple and beautiful lesson in life.

There was a puppet of the tiger with various invisible strings attached on all parts of its body; having a common control of all threads at another end in the hands of the person operating it. The Puppeteer had 25 years of experience in operating puppets in the show. The style and manner in which he operated puppets was so precise and accurate; that it got the audience a feeling of watching a real tiger perform. And that’s why the tiger’s performance got a standing ovation.

With curiosity, when after the show, I went to back stage to meet artists and see puppets, I was amazed to learn that the puppet of the tiger was attached with 27 strings and that too in a manner so complex, yet interdependent on each other.

At that very moment I found a huge similarity between those puppets and our lives as human beings. We as individuals are also attached with various invisible strings that represent our career, responsibilities, relations and several elements of personal and professional life which are complex in nature, yet interdependent on each other. The locomotion in each string determines our performance in the world that is our stage.

Sometimes, we might find a situation (string) of our life, that is not favorable and that could possibly hurt us a lot. But, always remember that the other end of the string is in the hands of a divine power who has vast experience as an operator of the performance. Thus, it knows how to operate punctually and accurately. Further, sometimes that power wants you to hurt because it wants you to perform well and get blossoms of words of appreciation, applauded and standing ovation by people around you. You may call this power whatever you like… Nature… Universe… God… anything…!!

In simple words, I call it THE POWER OF BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.

So friends, No worrying… Keep performing…

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Articles on blog…!!!

Dear friends,

Feeling delighted to share with you all a good news that my Social Enterprise ‘THE INSIDE YOU’ has started its journey towards a noble social cause. At start-up level itself appreciation by mentors, various organizations, and friends gave me inspiration to work even harder towards my dream and passion.

With an objective of ‘Emotional transformation of youth’, THE INSIDE YOU is addressing ‘Emotional Stagnation’ of youth as a social issue and by providing practical Life Skills Training and Life Coaching we help them to attain and raise their level of ‘Emotional Intelligence’ ;

The core ideology of the organization reflects through its vision statement i.e. “We are committed to be a globally leading social enterprise that strive for emotional transformation of youth.”

To take a leap towards it, here I come up with an initiative of writing a blog that talks about fundamentals of life and emotions and which will be expression of my thoughts and feelings.

Do share…. Like…. Comment….!!!

24 Hours left for first one to go…!!

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